The Female Orgasm has been a topic of debate, mystery and even the biggest punchline going all the way back before Christ. I bet the Sumerians probably didn’t know how to please their women either. Anyway, only as of past century has it been de-mystified and is now taken into account as “OMG it’s really really real! Is that what makes you squirt?”
For the longest time I didn’t know the mechanics behind it all (thank you sex education! ) So when I finally came into my own, I felt less “bad” for thinking I was just sexually dysfunctional and became more at ease and happier that how I came was natural and that my body was A-OK!
Sometimes I wonder: How many of us know our own body, and how many men for that matter know how our orgasms work? Glad you asked, I went and found out…
+Its reported that up until the last few decades it was assumed that women didn’t orgasm at all. Why so? Not too many doctors specialized in sexual medicine. And since women didn’t need to orgasm to conceive, the female orgasm wasn’t of much importance to most doctors.
+Men don’t necessarily need love or romantic feelings to orgasm- it is automatic . Ok, before I get dragged to hell, I didn’t say ALL MEN. Men can not orgasm at all or even get aroused due to stress, emotions, medications, circulatory issues, diabetes, etc. So yeah, but back to my main subject…
+What happens when we come? Well… the clit enlarges and moves. The pelvic area fills with blood and the genital muscles tighten and kablooey! Orgasms release that tension and the vagina, pelvic floor, anus and uterus get in on that.
+ On average, we have 6-10 contractions per orgasm. Men, just 4-6. Sorry, fellas.
+We do take a long time on average: 10-20 minutes during sex. Men, only 2-3 on average.
+Women CAN orgasm AND have multiples, under the right circumstances: A caring, understanding partner who’s knowledgeable and can help her along. Fear not ladies, it is possible…as long as your man (or lady) isn’t the selfish type.
+Women DO need CLITORAL stimulation to reach orgasm. Save for the few who can during penetration, and its probably where the penis hits. Which is on or near the G spot which is located in the vaginal wall about 3 inches in. Shallow strokes, YAASS!
+1/3 of women orgasm through penetration. Another 1/3 can through penetration and additional stimulation. Another 1/3 of women can only through oral or manual stimulation.
Luckily for me i can have all 3!
+Women can come, but not even know they did. Some women do hit the peak of arousal and then feel much more relaxed and contented. It doesn’t have to be when the pelvic floor muscles clench in order to be a “true” orgasm. Yes, good to know. Because I’m tired of being put into doubt, since I didnt go into convulsions and squirt so hard, I punched a hole through space and time to know it was a real climax.
+Orgasms are goooooood: Oxytocin and endorphins are released when you come. Oxytocin in particular, being the “bonding/love” hormone. Awww
+ALSO we are able to come through exercise, sleeping (nocturnal emissions, anyone?) and giving birth. The last one…um. Anyway, additionally the old standbys: Horseback riding, motorcycles and the washer machine. Something, something Maytag repairman. *cough*
But i have been known to cum in my sleep!!!!
I hope in some way this makes you feel better, granted you knew this already (I hope) and that men picked up a little something from this, too! Granted, this isn’t the end-all be-all guide, I’m sure there’s some I forgot. i.e: As to how to make yourself (or your lady come), people are different, what turns them on and how they go about it is different. Just know that this is your body and how it works, and you? You are awesome!